Positive Messaging

Self-talk matters but many of us respond best to external opinions. Words exert tremendous power. They can move us to joy or tears. 

Be warm and demanding. Coach John Wooden criticized with "sandwich technique", administering correction between positive elements. Coach Del Harris described "levels of communication" from conversational, teaching, correction, disciplinary, and "go nuts" for extreme measures. 

What messages can we send? Here are some possibilities:

Reassurance: "We are here to put you in the best position to succeed." 

Validation: "You add value to the team." 

Redirection: "Engage. Positive play." ("Next play", "Be in the moment")

Energy: "Everything is energy." 

Encouragement: "You will get opportunity, but it may not come when you think it should come." 

Persistence: "There is no try." 

Confidence: The most powerful words a coach and mentor can share, "I believe in you."