Move from selfishness to service. To lead, we need keen powers of observation and listening. We must be willing listeners; listen by design.
Become indispensable by creating interdependence. The 'transcendent player' needs teammates to get her open with the ball intelligently via defense, rebounding, screening, and passing.
The more we serve, the more we receive in return. Brad Stevens notes, "we get more than we give."
"Extreme complementary players" who excel at defense or rebounding become irreplaceable, while getting opportunities to grow as more complete players. Pele' was never the captain of his legendary Brazilian soccer teams. The burden of stardom and on-field leadership can be too great.
Leadership is a skill. Toughness is a skill. Service is a skill. Recognize value in players who make our teams more complete.