Add value. In the latter part of 1980, I did a pair of clerkships at the National Naval Medical Center - Bethesda. The first was Hematology-Oncology.
As a medical student I followed around LCDR James Martin, who had a specific routine. Before rounds, he polished his belt buckle and shined his Navy white shoes...every day. He looked and acted the part. After Dr. Martin had interviewed and examined a patient, they were almost thankful they had cancer and that Dr. Martin was their doctor. That's value.
Coaches have the opportunity to change lives...not just influence student-athletes. Build character and competence.
Connect
Be intentional. Help players feel seen and heard. Greet each by name upon their arrival and thank them at the end of practice. It didn't always go that well in a world touched by self-concern and envy. But we make the effort.
Collaborate
We cannot extinguish the fire individually. Players, families, coaching, and community have to align.
Coach
Coaching is teaching, inspiring, and correcting. Correction is not criticism. Coaching demands positive and negative feedback. I've seen a player commit 14 turnovers in a developmental setting in one game. "One bad play, bad play. Two bad plays, bad player. Three bad plays, bad coaching." Fourteen bad plays, mental health check for me...
An underappreciated skill is teaching players how to add value for themselves.
- "Play a lot." Camp Driveway can only do so much for you. To "see the game" you have to play, ideally against better competition.
- Study the game. That usually requires video...to study how players execute, how teams succeed, how coaches make a difference. Watch video on studying video, too.
- Become more athletic. Sport rewards athletic explosiveness. The ability to accelerate and decelerate, to change directions, and execute on the move requires extensive investment. Roger Federer played a variety of sports until he was twelve, then specialized. Your preadolescent will benefit from learning to move as much as learning to play.
- Become your own coach. Find balance during self-reflection between criticism and grace. Everyone has bad games, even exceptional players. During his 1968 season with an ERA of 1.12, Bob Gibson had a game where he allowed six earned runs. Conversely, during another stretch of 99 innings (11 starts) he allowed 3 earned runs (ERA 0.27). Nobody's perfect.
- Seek balance. Courage balances recklessness and fear. Commitment balances obsession and laziness. Find joy in the balance.
Lagniappe 2. To craft legacy, surround yourself with compounders.
Surround yourself with compounders: pic.twitter.com/jQpwqpz8IP
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