"It matters not how strait the gait,
How charged with punishment the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
The captain of my soul."
- Ernest Henley, Invictus
Future Admiral James Stockdale was shot down over North Vietnam in 1965 and spent about 7 1/2 years as a POW, much of it in solitary confinement ("cold soaks"). He wrote about his experiences in Courage Under Fire.
He has a length education in Stoicism while a postgraduate student at Stanford and shared how Stoicism helped him cope with torture and incarceration.
Many of his lessons came from the slave Epictetus who preached a curriculum "not about revenues or income, or peace or war, but about happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, slavery and freedom."
The lessons pertain in sports, in which many athletes have adopted Stoicism and "control what you can control." Athletes can't control their opponent, conditions, officiating, injuries and fatigue.
Jay Wright's emphasis on attitude relate to that approach and broadcast Charlie Jones wrote about control extensively in "That's Outside My Boat, Letting Go of What You Can't Control."
Stockdale wrote, "You can only be a "victim" of yourself. It's all in how you discipline your mind." He also wrote that "it is those things that are "within his power" and those things that are "beyond his power."
Athletes control their study, skill development, strength and conditioning, and self-maintenance of disciplined recovery, sleep, nutrition, and hydration. They also control in-game decision-making, communication, effort, and how their play impacts both the game and teammates.
Epictetus wrote, "Everybody should play the game of life - that the best play it with "skill, form, speed, and grace." He emphasized that although what we control is limited, we have full control of how we respond. Lack of humility, poor sportsmanship, and selfishness are within our domain. He added, "Lameness is an impediment to the leg, but not to the Will."
Stockdale concludes that, "Controlling your emotions is difficult but can be empowering."
Many key lessons from great coaches reflect Stoic principles:
1. "Basketball is sharing." - Phil Jackson Sharing is a choice.
2. "A lion never roars after a kill." - Dean Smith Humility is a choice.
3. "It's not your shot; it's our shot." - Jay Bilas Teamwork is choice.
Mental toughness decides games. Set the example for our players - mental toughness always and excuses never.
Lagniappe. Mark Few and his staff invest in "Personal Growth Mondays."
Mark Few explains the process Gonzaga uses to work on mental toughness and adversity.
— Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness (@coachajkings) April 29, 2026
"We spend probably 25-30% of the athlete's time now on mental."
Then he explained what that looks like: "We do this thing called PGMs - Personal Growth Mondays."
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