“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” - Benjamin Franklin
Adding value is a concept across sport, education, business, and life. Add value to get buy-in, trust, and loyalty.
Dismiss the big lie of 'self-made man' theory. "I came up from nothing. I had nobody, no money, no resources, nothing." Professor Cornel West says it well, "born into the world, our first expression is a cry for help."
Share lessons from each collaboration. We add value across multiple dimensions. Be specific.
Community
- "It takes a village to raise a child." - African Proverb
- Community is a vital part of Servant Leadership
- "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country." - John F. Kennedy, inauguration 1961
Action: How do we engage better with our community?
Administration (Athletic Department)
- The best way to get respect is to give it.
- Anticipate when and how our decisions will create waves.
- Choose collaboration over confrontation. That doesn't mean there won't be "walk away" issues.
Action: Cultivate great relationships with the AD.
Coaches
- Professional development of assistants is also part of the job.
- Development includes education, delegation, and soliciting their input.
- We are sales people. Obsess the product. "Make it. Sell it. Build brand awareness."
Action: How does my action impact assistants?
Players
- How does it feel to be coached by me? "Never be a child's last coach."
- Everyone gets coaching, "caring and challenging." Brad Stevens says to be "warm and demanding." (Radical Candor of Kim Scott)
- Give and get feedback. Remember to be "performance-focused, feedback-rich" to create advantage.
Action: Be relationship-oriented AND task-oriented.
Parents
- Remember the "Prime Directive" that nobody advocates for a child more than parents. Their chief concern is almost universally the well-being of their child over the good of the team.
- Be mindful of "The Triad." Parents are concerned about minutes, roles, and recognition. That makes them human, not bad.
- Consider "The Empty Chair" concept of Dan Pink. Be aware that in our 'directors' meeting' there is an empty chair for our customers.
Action: Be mindful that hard conversations are inevitable because of economics - the deployment of limited resources.
Lagniappe. Saban's two questions.
1. Will I do what I must do to be my best? "Can you make yourself do it?"
2. Will I avoid doing what I shouldn't be doing? "Can you keep yourself from it?"
